THE WARNING SIGNS: / Know When You Are Lied To Part One

HAVE YOU EVER BEEN LIED TO, AND NOT EVEN KNOWN IT? IF someone says to you " You are my Friend." Are they your friend?





When I attended Chabot College in Hayward, Ca in the Middle to the later part of the 1980's I studied to major in Administration of Justice, my ambition at this time was to pursue a career into Law Enforcement. I took a few Psychology Classes as required for my major. In one of the classes I learned how to interpret body language, and compared that to what they are saying and even how they are breathing at the time. It's a science in itself.

GOING WITH THE FLOW

If your not sure on how a friendship starts, or what the person who you are friends with TRUE intentions are, my suggestion try a simple meeting time for coffee. If the Answer is NO, then there you have it, no need to pursue the friendship any further.

Look at the person's eyes when they are talking to you, are they looking at you when they say it? How is their Posture? Do they stop what they are doing when they talk are they keep going? Do they initiate the hello? These questions and more you have to ask yourself, How committed are you to keep the friendship going if the simplest warning signs are detected. A Friendship is a two way street where both no matter if they are the opposite or the same sex, the communication is open without any doubt or hangups. The most obvious when one party keeps asking for money with out any form of payback. DON'T LEND MONEY OUT UNLESS It's Tangible things that the person needs or it's agreed upon to set a barter. Loaning money out can breakup a friendship and even families. Don't Test the loyalty of the friendship that never works. Sometimes leaving the person alone gives the person time to think how important the friendship really is; however if there is any doubt of you being used, or you are being used to their advantage, simply walk away quietly. Best to remain positive than having a negative feeling.

Friendships takes time to grow like wine fermenting. ALWAYS Pray at the beginning, midday and evening for your friends and for friends you have not met yet. Go with your "Gut instinct" TRUE Friends are always there for you, in good times as well as the bad. Always thank your friend for being there.

FIND OUT FIRST

Check or Find out what kind of a person they are before going further. You don't want to be mixed up with someone who uses or sells drugs, that's no fun. What kind of work do they do? Are they married, single, divorced or in some other committed relationship? With Married friends you may want to consider not get involved or just meet them as a couple. ( DON'T Get pulled into a marriage problem!!) Insist that you

meet as couple,(Christian Moral Values).

In Part Two I will talk about how to help a friend deal with stress.